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One thing you said really jumped out at me: "it also made me sad, as I assumed that I'd ruined the friendship." You are making a big mistake if you think this guy is your friend. He's not your friend, and you do not owe him the courtesy or consideration that you would give a friend. A friend is someone who has a small or non existent interest in a romantic relationship with you, who is in your life for other reasons than the possibility of a relationship, sex and love. This guy is not doing nice things for you because he's your friend, he want's you as his partner, and that's ok. But you need to separate in your own head the difference between a platonic friend and how you would interpret their actions and needs, and how that's different to someone intensely interested in sex, romance and presumably loving you. Someone perusing a relationship with you needs to be handled differently to a friend. So you can't "ruin the friendship" here by protecting yourself from a relationship you don't want. End of story. Manipulators like this guy rely on you feeling this way to pressure you into giving them what they want, regardless of how healthy it would be for you to give it. They rely on your empathy and the feeling that you owe him something to make you hesitate to do what's best for you.
